Parental actions and its Reflections

Procrastination and procrastinator~! Isn't it the greatest word to describe this small little entry and-to an extent-the writters of this blogspot (no offense meant)?


Oh well, rather than spending my time on chit-chatting mindless idiocy, might as well get to the point.

A few days ago, a friend of mine confronted me and asks for a council. Knowing him/her fully, I decided to give this a go-in hopes I didn't screw his/her life even further.

The conversation occupies a whole lunch period (good thing we brought lunch), as well as an additional 2 minute from the 5 minute countdown to class. It didn't bother me, really-what bothers me is the fact on why he/she confronted me for.

Parents. They are your source, your origin. The two figure who breathe life into you and raise you in such a way that someday you too, would achive success in a distant future and breathe life to another. Yet how far do they impact our life? Our personality? Our way of thinking...?

They are characters (besides friends and foes) who set examples to you, in hopes that you too would be as much like them-or better, excels them.


...But what if such examples were in a form of abuse? What if they 'enslave' you? How would you feel? How would you react?

For years, never have I caught wind of any ill-fated child under the constant oppression and abusement of parents-and to confront one in reality. Knowing and acknowledging the fact that this is in our school community disturbs me greatly.

I have known him/her for years, and by know I can vaguely picture the reason 'why' he/she has little or no friends at all. Some reports I've heard consists on how he/she treated others-some says he/she is rude to an intollerable extent. I confronted him/her to reason with and eventually, this is where I came to be.

In one way or another, your father or mother is reflected through you-there is no deny to it. If a parent teach they're offsprings with terror, then they (the offspring) will give terror. If a parent teach they're offsprings to fear, then they will plague others with fear. But if a parent teach they're offsprings with love, then they will present love.

If a parent abuse you, teach you how to fear and respect them using physical power and verbal degradation of a status, then you too would unknowingly abuse and degrade others without second thoughts-acceptable or not. If they treated you with constant verbal humiliation, mockings, and discouragement then you will then treat others with constant verbal humiliation, mockings, and discouragement. Or in a second effect, the thought of how low you are would haunt you.

From here, a social outcast is born from the midst of the constant mockings, discouragement, and both physical and verbal degradation given by your parents-the person you wish and seek for help the most in times of need.
Is the effect reversible? It is. As parents are the foundation that influences us, friends became the number 1 influencing source. As you grow older, you would spend time longer with your friends than your family; and this is where they play major part in your life developing you-whether good or bad.
But are such actions simple? It isn't. Social outcasts tends to be socially clueless, and would prefer to be seeked than to seek-a trait that both benefits and decimates the character. They would tend to be avoided, and if they do socialize it wouldn't take long for them to evolve into a public enemy-either by word, or treatment.

By now, I am unsure on what to do in an attempt to reach out and guide him/her to better sociallize. An attempt that seems futile, yet has a 10-20% success rate possibility. As for this time, I have noticed how limited his/her allies are; which is a possible reason as one of the obstacle to why he/she has a hard time sociallizing. Then again, the traces on why he/she is leads to the way his/her parents treatment.


As a quote says somewhere: "We are, after all, cheap copies of our parents"